Table Topics: Judgement & Understanding

Took one of my classmates out today coz she needed to get some things.

She's been through a lot. Nothing I will disclose here but we had a pretty long chat in the car once we got back.

And it's really true what they say about never judging someone before getting to know them.

She opened up to me about everything that was going on. How she felt about things. How she was dealing with things.

And at the end of the day it all boils down to understanding.

There's a reason behind the things people do. It's simply a matter of accepting that reason and understanding them for it and them helping them get through it.

You hear stories about married couples going through a divorce. It's really not an option anyone should think about after marriage. After all it's for better or for worse, right? But what if sometimes it becomes too much to bear? What if sometimes things get impossible to handle? What if that's the reason divorces happen in the first place? Who are we to judge.

You hear stories about teenagers having random sex and then getting pregnant. Yes I think it's a really stupid thing to do. But then again maturity doesn't come to everyone at the same age. Some people, perhaps, have to go through something that drastic to grow up. To realize their worth, their value and to learn about what's right and what's wrong. If a pregnant teenage girl comes to you for help you can't shout in her face, call her names and tell her how incredibly stupid she was for doing something like that. Because the fact of the matter is, she's already expecting. All you need to do is help. Help her get through her difficult time, help her through the whole thing and I'm sure she'll realize what a mistake it was. She'll learn eventually. We can blame her, we can make her feel completely worthless about herself but what good would it do? Who are we to judge.

You see homosexuals everywhere these days. A lot of them don't want to be that way and yet they are because that's how their body functions. That's how their body works. Hormones. A lot of the time they're shunned from society because of what they are. Parents can't accept the fact that their sons are gay or that their daughters are lesbians. They'd rather disown them rather than help them work through it. Yes, people will talk. People will backbite, people will be very discouraging. But at the end of the day that child is your flesh and blood. Yes, I'm very sure our religion doesn't in any way encourage such things but surely there are ways we can help them. They have feelings, too. They are humans, too. Who are we to judge.

You meet people with the kindest of hearts but on the surface they're as hard as bloody rocks and refuse to wear their heart on a sleeve. Ego. And there are ultimately two things you can do; Either ignore them or accept them and love them regardless in the hope that someday they'll change. Because there's definitely a reason behind the way they are. It takes a lot of love and understanding to be able to accept such people. They can be exceptionally difficult to handle, they can be very insecure even though they don't realize and they can hurt you in every which way possible but you can make a difference somehow. You can stick around and help them. They just need to let you do that. Who are we to judge them for who they've become?

Don't judge someone just because she talks a lot. She may have been a quiet person before but maybe she's learning to be more confident with herself. Maybe that's why she mixes around with everyone and talks more than necessary.

Don't judge someone just because she wears cheap clothes. She may be from a very wealthy family but simply wants to keep it to herself instead of parading herself to the whole world.

Don't judge someone just because they're gay. It's either the way they are or a choice they've made. If you can't accept it, keep your distance. Dissing them isn't going to help matters in any way.

Don't judge someone just because he's a complete asshole on the outside but has certain things about him that's hidden. Things he refuses to show to the world. There's a reason behind the way he is. Either you understand and accept it or keep your distance. Back biting won't do any good.

Don't judge.

Everyone is so judgmental it's sickening.

Put yourself in the other person's shoes for a little while and think. Think about how you'd feel if you were going through the same things. Think about what'd you'd do.

There's a reason behind everything and everyone.

Be the kind of person you'd want to meet. The kind of person you'd want to trust and talk to about all the things you have buried deep down.

Don't judge.