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22 Things Upon Turning 22

I've been meaning to write this post for some time now. And by sometime I mean for about a year or so.
Things I have come to realize, mostly.

1. Be positive. Think happy thoughts. Don't let one bad day ruin your whole year.

2. If your mom tells you not to mix with that one friend of yours, listen to her. She's probably met her fair share of weird characters in uni so she knows a bitch or a bastard when she lays eyes on one, she just doesn't tell you in so many words. Take heed.

3. Stretch marks are NORMAL. Some people hide it very well. Some simply can't.

4. Judging someone is not nice. We've all made stupid mistakes. Bear in mind that what goes around always comes around in due time.

5. Classical music is NOT old people's music. It's an acquired taste. Like sushi. And me. 

6. Verbal abuse can be as bad as physical abuse. Walk away from anyone who does this to you.

7. You can't please everyone. Do what you think is right and leave it at that. 

8. Never change who you really are just to fit in. Especially when it comes to having your own principles. If you don't want to go clubbing, you don't go clubbing. End of story.

9. Friends who crash at your place and steal your car keys while you're asleep just to go out and come back hours later without answering your calls are NOT. FRIENDS. They're making use of you and of what you have. Learn how to differentiate.

10. Make friends with someone of a totally different world from you. Talk to them. Hear their side of the story. They might just surprise you.

11. Don't spend hundreds of dollars on gifts for a boy who isn't sure about his feelings for you. Save that money and treat yourself to some good food instead.

12. Not all gifts in life come wrapped in boxes with bows on top. 

13. Hearts were made to be broken. But as broken as they may be, they will eventually heal. Trust me. 

14. Make it a point to remember birthdays and anniversaries. Let people know they're always on your mind even though you may not always show it.

15. Don't worry about the piece of chicken that flew off your plate and fell into someone's lap. Just apologize profusely because chances are,  you're never going to see them again. 

16. Make time for yourself. Do your nails, do your hair, go for a good massage. Don't neglect yourself.

17. Being alone and being lonely are two very, very different things. There's nothing wrong with watching a movie on the big screen alone or wanting to spend time with yourself.

18. Go out with as many people as you want but never commit to someone until and unless you're absolutely ready. 

19. Body hair is normal. Just like stretch marks. Punch anyone who tells you otherwise. Seriously. Punch them.

20. Study your heart out for exams. Get good grades. But don't kill your spirit in the process. 

21. Don't be so quick to pour out your whole life story to newly made friends. People change. Friends leave.

22. You need to experience bad days to truly appreciate the good ones. Something I've learnt fairly recently.

Now that I've come to the end of my list I'm thinking of so many other things to write about. 
But these are the few things I hope everyone understands as they're growing up.
Just be your wonderful self. 
The people closest to you will appreciate you for who you really are.
:)

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